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Hold your head high
When you hold your head low, it can make you appear more anxious or insecure. This way people will view you as less confident.
If you walk or talk with your hands relaxedly, that is how others may perceive you. With wide shoulders is another sign of low self-confidence.
Raising your body posture increases stress and insecurity in yourself, making you seem more defensive or uncomfortable. This may be why someone who raises their body posture will get offended or upset when you do something that makes them feel uncomfortable.
Be aware of your posture
Your posture is how you hold yourself. With good posture, you can set up barriers in your body that keep things out and help you maintain healthy habits.
With bad posture, problems can arise when different parts of the body are put together improperly. For example, if you have poor neck posture, then your shoulders may be hunched forward. If this goes unchecked for too long, your back will start to curve.
Your legs and feet also play a role in your overall posture. Make sure that your toes aren’t pointed toward each other or pressed against another object.
This could lead to discomfort and joint pain. To improve your standing posture, make a goal to stand with your head held high. This helps open the lungs and increase chest strength.
Make eye contact
Making eye contact is one of the first things people do when they are talking to each other. It’s how they show interest or concern in what someone else has said.
When you make eye contact, you take yourself, and your conversation, more seriously. You demonstrate that you care about what you have to say by showing an understanding of where the person you are speaking with is coming from.
Making eye contact involves looking at the face of the person you are listening to believe them and give their message trustworthiness. Because we all respond emotionally to other people, making eye contact helps us understand each other better.
If something was said that upset you, made you laugh, or confused you, you will be able to see it in your partner’s eyes. This allows him or her to know why you were hurt, laughing or surprised.
Making eye contact demonstrates you’re paying attention and thinks highly of the other speaker. If you don’t look away, then the other person may think you didn’t get the message or want to speak to them.
Keeping facial expressions consistent is key to having a successful talk if you aren’t sure whether you should smile or frown. Not only does this tell the listener what you mean, it also tells them how much you care enough to try to contain it.
It gives the impression that you feel comfortable taking charge and that you aren’t afraid to make a decision.
When you are interacting with other people, being natural is your first line of defense. Even if you feel nervous, making a effort to be calm and comfortable in your own skin is what will make this difference.
It is difficult to look back at past interactions and think up any reasons why you would have acted differently.
When you were too nervous then, now you are feeling more confident. You didn’t realize that you sounded squeaky clean when you tried talking about your interests and experiences.
Now you are learning how to express yourself better.
You can ask questions instead of telling stories. Asking questions gives the other person room to talk, while telling them your story in their face doesn’t give them time to get ready for it.
Questions help others know where you are coming from before you tell a story. This makes them feel more equipped to deal with what you say, and they love you more for it.
The best way to learn how to be more natural is by doing so. Go into life aware of those things which you want to change, but don’t worry about everything. Just focus on having good conversations and explaining yourself, and leave the rest to chance.
Don’t worry about correctness or accuracy; just speak from the heart. Who cares if some words aren’t used properly – everyone understands what you mean anyway. Martin Luther King, Jr. once
When you are talking to someone, your body language can be misleading. If you were sitting down when you were speaking with them, then they may think that you are more confident in what you are saying.
When you are standing up, you will look more relaxed because you are less constrained by your physical limitations. You also feel more compelled to listen than if you are sitting down.
If you are standing up and there is no constraint, then you will seem more open and friendly. People will take you more seriously and respect your opinions more.
If you are sitting down, you will seem more reluctant to speak and add confidence which makes other people trust your words more.
A lot of people mistake silence as being timid, but I believe it to be more that staying loud after everyone else has spoken is shrill and unpleasant.
If you have something important to say, wait for your turn. More often than not, talking when no one wants to hear what you’re saying is considered a grave faux-pas these days.
But don’t worry too much about keeping silent. It will become second nature before long. Plus, there are times where remaining mute or even dropping your voice can make you seem more mature and put yourself in more control.
Sometimes we do need to take pause and listen to others, but avoiding interruption does not mean ignoring them completely. By turning away from them slightly, you are showing that you deserve some kind of attention.
Try making an effort to leave someone out of your conversation. It may sound silly, but it could help you gain their trust.
It may seem bizarre, but it is a serious thing if you don’t control your fidgets (the little movements that show anxiety). When you Fidget, You shift from one foot to the other, pick at something between your fingers or rub them together.
The effects can be very pronounced when being interviewed by a stranger. The body needs to understand that there is a distance between this person and itself in order to relax and speak freely, But our brains are not fully developed until we are 25 years old.
So how do you know if someone likes you? Well, like most things, it’s a series of small actions. Whether a friend tells you he/she loves you, or you see him looking at you across the room, these actions are important clues that you’re both thinking the same thought.
Here are some more examples of nonverbal behaviors to look for :
Don’t force conversations
We live in a world that is focused on conversation. If you don’t talk, people will think less of you.
It is well known that our society values people who are good at talking, but there are also steps we can take to improve how others perceive us. One way to do this is by not monopolizing the conversation or making assumptions about what other people want to talk about.
If someone wants to talk to you, they will look for your face and body. They will try to read your mood before they approach you.
They will know when it is appropriate to start talking to you. For example, if you see someone over here drinking coffee, then maybe you should wait until they have finished their coffee before speaking to you.
These are things that might make them finish his drink and leave. It is up to the person interacting with him.
We can also avoid the impulse to spill our heart out to everyone we meet. That often doesn’t end so well.
There is a reason that most meeting minutes involve giving updates on meetings that you missed. It is too stressful. You add more stress onto the team by being nervous and untrusting of them.
This applies to both individuals and teams. No one should put another individual or group into the stress realm unless they really need to. Your life should be free from constant stress.
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not
Pretending to have something when you really don’t can hurt people’s feelings. For example, if you look very busy while sitting in front of someone else- pretending like you aren’t listening- it will make that person feel worse about themselves.
They will think “ I am not so interesting or important,” which is negative and doesn’t help you at all!
If you are with some friends and one of you says something funny, everyone around the room will feel more inclined to laugh too. Why? Because they will believe that there is another person in the room who does not get what she/he is saying and thinks it is stupid.
When we assume things won’t be appreciated, we cannot enjoy them. It takes effort to maintain our own self-esteem, and this also applies to other people.
We should only try to improve ourselves because we want to; self-improvement is a natural thing. However, know that others may see your improvement but still do not understand what it is trying to say to them.
For instance, if you set out to prove a certain idea by showing off a specific skill- such as how to ride a bike quickly- then maybe those around you will suspect you are hiding something. This could be hurting their feeling and making them fear for your ability to keep a secret.
Usually once people realize why you are doing something