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Feel their breath
This is one of the most important things to do if you are trying to determine if someone’s in your bed. There are some tell-tale signs that they’re there.
If you hear breathing, it can be big or small; just know it was definitely there. By hearing the breathing, you will also better understand how loud it needs to be for others so you don’t worry them.
Another trick about seeing people in your bed is knowing where they are. Are they under the covers or past them? Is their head near the foot of the bed or the side? Find out what area they usually sleep in and check there first.
Maybe they went home and fell asleep somewhere else but still feel like they were in your bed. Check any bathrooms, dorm rooms, etc…you name it. Then when we say look at their bed, they weren’t there – maybe they slept on the couch.
Look for patterns as well. If they always go to bed around midnight, then wake up before eight in the morning, perhaps they aren’t sleeping properly. Maybe they stay up later than everyone else, leaving them only with short periods of time to get ready for school or work.
Consider asking anyone you know lives alone if she goes anywhere during those times. Perhaps she stays at a friends house or something similar. It could simply be curiosity getting the best of her.
Feel their heart beat
Do you ever wake up in the middle of the night and feel someone else is with you?
I do, and it’s not just because I’m sleeping next to my wife. Sometimes, when I’m awake during the day, I have this feeling that there’s something special here. That maybe we’re supposed to be together., even though we’ve been married for years and our relationship has nothing to offer anyone else.
But then at nighttime, when I can sense another person’s presence, I feel it too. Not necessarily fear, but more like an unexplained intruder sensation. It makes me want to check things out.
Sometimes when I find myself waking from sleep, I convince myself there was some kind of noise and the curtain in the bedroom opened or something. Then I remember that these are just dreams and go back to sleep.
The one time I convinced myself there was a woman in the bed with me, I woke up and saw her sitting by the door way into our room. She smiled at me and said she had come back from the interview and wanted to tell us both about it.
She explained that she had woken up before me in the bed and something told her to take a look around the room at all the things that happened to us in life. So she looked outside the house and everything that happened to us last year while we were living there came
Feel their body shape
There is a reason that most people feel someone else in bed with them. Most people know this feeling or at least they think they do.
There are many reasons why you might wake up and believe that someone’s been in your bedroom. Maybe you heard something, like a door closing, then everything was quiet until you opened your eyes.
Maybe you just didn’t close your curtains all the way when you went to sleep, making it seem more dark than it really was.
Feel their fingers
Oh, you felt someone’s presence?
Maybe they left something behind; maybe your mind played tricks on you. Maybe you woke up and there was someone there.
It can be very upsetting when it happens to me, because I always think that someone is going to be there.
I wake up in a cold sweat, wondering why my roommate isn’t beside me. I get out of bed feeling kind of exposed and vulnerable.
Getting ready for school with all of our busyness can make you feel more isolated than you are. So can having a lot of things on your plate and trying to work while being distracted by family members or people who also want to talk to you.
So don’t worry about what it means when you feel someone in your room! Instead, focus on yourself and what you need to do.
And try to have these feelings only at night when you’re fully awake and able to recognize them. During the day, you’ll probably just feel like your bed is too soft or your wallpaper is slightly fuzzy, and you’ll remember that as soon as you fall asleep again, everything will look fine.
Also, check your curtains, shadows, and any plants after sunset. They might seem silly, but anything could cause you to feel someone’s around.
Feel their toes
Fear of strangers often causes people to get out of bed, so your body’s natural response is to be awake and aware. Feeling less fear will also help you feel more rested.
When you feel rested, you’ll feel more able to pursue your interests and hobbies. Avoid feeling stressed or tired when you wake up for school or work.
Try making a habit of getting up early enough to avoid setting an alarm. This will likely take some trial and error before it becomes a habit, but it is worth it in the end.
The best way to achieve this is by waking up earlier with fewer distractions- no television, computer, phone, etc.
That way you’ll have something else to think about instead of lying in bed thinking “What should I do today?”
Another thing you can try is having a ritual every morning that leads into you getting out of bed. For example, make a coffee and start yourself a water drink while putting away things you left down the night before.
Any type of activity gets your mind focused off your sleepiness and ready to go ahead and take what might otherwise been a sleepy day.
Keep doing these habits and eventually you’ll get used to them and be sleeping better at night which would give you more energy during the day.
Feel their feet
Did you know that’s it is possible to feel someone else’s presence even when your eyes are closed?
Our sense of feeling is so strong that we can even “feel” someone approaching another person. And, as they say, knowledge is power.
So how do we use our feelings to survive day-to-day? Let’s look at physical contact and intimacy.
We need touch! Whether it is hugging family members or holding hands with partners, these activities allow us to connect emotionally to those around us.
However, if there is a lack of this connection, then problems such as depression may occur.
This is why people cling to drugs and alcohol to try and block out the outside world. However, what they really want is meaningful interaction.
Therefore, taking actions to increase social connections (such as going out more often) is a good thing.
If you feel like you aren’t having enough moments together, you should discuss ways to fix this issue. After all, without meaningful interactions, you won’t be able to have emotional connections.
Feel their hands
There is a reason that we can sense another person’s presence even when they are not there. We know that someone else is close, but we cannot necessarily see them.
Our brains have built-in mechanisms to keep us aware of others near us without our having to think about it. These mechanisms explain why people feel like strangers or invisible friends in some social situations, even if they have known each other for years.
The brain naturally seeks familiarity in what it perceives around us, as well as who or what it thinks it sees. This is how “mind reading” works – your mind assumes you are looking at something familiar (such as an old friend), so it considers you must be thinking about them.
When you think about someone, different parts of your nervous system control your facial expression, body language, voice tone, and eye contact to tell your brain what it is thinking. With practice, this ability evolves into “feelings” about those thoughts and emotions.
These aren’t actual feelings you would experience when dreaming; rather, they are automatic instincts rooted in cognitive awareness. The feeling arises from where your mind interprets sensory input data as similar to whom or what it believes to be present in its environment.
Feel their legs
More often than not, when someone is hidden in your bed, it means that they are hiding because they’re afraid.
How can you tell if someone is scared?: Their body language gives away their level of fear.
If there is a lot of chaos around them, chances are they are experiencing high levels of stress and are doing what they can to protect themselves.
But if they have no reason to be scared (for example, if they are right next to you and they start shaking) then they are most likely just experiencing a brief episode of shock or anxiety.
In this situation, they aren’t thinking clearly and don’t know how to control their reactions. This person could get very angry or run out of the room for shelter.
Feel their neck
Don’t panic! Just check to make sure it is not someone else in your bed. (E.g., family members, pets)
If you are sure this is what it is, then get ready for some fun!
It could be mischievous or even playful companionship that has made its way into your bed.
Maybe it was something with food or saw dust. Any amount of playfulness can become excessive once you are out of sleep mode.
This article will explain how to work with this and help put you back to sleep again.
Consider taking an early night if needed to restore quality sleep.