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Being submissive is a lifelong goal for many
There’s a reason that most abusive relationships are also “managers”- because it takes a certain type of person to be able to subordinate others to them.
Being able to receive direction and follow through is an important character strength, as well as something we all have to do at some point in our lives.
However, there are differences between how you should lead and how you should govern. A leader inspires their team by creating an environment of confidence and trust. They take responsibility for their actions and encourage others to do the same.
A leader gets people working together; someone who commands respect is easier to work with. We know that leaders come in different forms (our bosses, teachers, parents, partners, etc.), but no one works harder than a leader.
If you want to learn more about being a leader, see this other article for more information.
Being submissive means doing what your partner tells you to do
In a healthy relationship, it’s very clear that your partner should be leading things. If there is no leadership, this can create unhealthy dynamics which may include
wanting someone else to take control
Being submissive doesn’t mean you don’t have opinions or feel complete yourself. It simply means that you shouldn’t worry about being alone or feeling worthless if you don’t want those things.
You should trust your partner enough to agree with them when they say something important, but also feel capable of making my own decisions and not relying on your partner exclusively for happiness (or love).
It’s only when we are willing to put ourselves in our partners’ shoes before trying to understand their perspective) that we can truly make the world a better place.
Actions speak louder than words, so try your best to avoid places where words can silence people around you. Also, remember that what sounds like orders to you might just be suggestions or even compliments on your end.
Keep these tips in mind and start practicing now!
It means allowing your partner to make important decisions about your life
In non-exclusive relationships, both people should be willing to compromise in order to live together and to achieve mutual satisfaction.
However, too often these days women feel that if they let men have their way then it’s unfair game. Women are expected to be like little girls with adult bodies and this is just not acceptable.
Men must grow up and be more responsible than ever before for all aspects of their lives. If they can’t handle being told what to do or how to do things, then maybe they aren’t growing as individuals and deserve only grief in relationship terms.
Both parties need to understand that no matter how long you’ve been married for, there’s always another step up the ladder and further along the track towards success.
Everyone has their own path to climb within marriage and accepting someone’s faults as well as seeing theirs as part of yours helps keep relationships strong.
Being submissive means being consistent with your partner
In a relationship, submission is being subordinate to one’s spouse. Basically you are willing to let go of control in certain situations by submitting to their decisions and taking them seriously.
In married relationships, submission can include letting your husband have his way about things because he earned more professional status at home.
Submission becomes a two-way street when each person gives priority to the other’s needs and wants. Each member of the couple should feel that their opinion is valued and that they can be heard through their partner.
If you feel like you are not equal partners in the marriage, then this word doesn’t mean what it meant before. Now it could be called friendship or collaboration instead of marriage.
Being submissive means being confident
There’s a saying in martial arts practice that “the master is the one who loses his sword, not his head.” In other words, giving up control of your actions or thoughts is the most sure way to lose you their respect and trust. Ifyou’re trying to prove yourself, then people will see you as weak. You don’t want to give them any chance to comment negatively about you.
There are times when losing control helps you win a fight, but generally speaking, submission is for defeat. People familiar with your body know how to take it down, and they will.
You don’t need to be the strongest person in the room, but you do need to put yourself in the position to succeed. It can be difficult holding a knife against someone else’s throat, but if you can restrain them, it should be easy. Letting others walk all over you makes this struggle more difficult for both of us.
Control is a choice you make every time you get into a fight. When things aren’t going your way, you choose to either resist or submit. Both choices have benefits, but we’ll talk about that next week.
For now, I just want you to recognize the difference between resistance and submission.
Being submissive means being a good partner
In any relationship, especially one between lovers, there will be times when you feel hurt, angered, confused, or frustrated.
You should never allow these feelings to get in the way of your relationships with each other.
If you are feeling wounded, upset, or overwhelmed by something that your partner has done or not done, the first step is to talk about it.
Talking through your problems helps them stop running around inside of you and leads to more stability in your relationship.
It also builds trust back into the couple bond. There’s no better feeling than knowing you can count on your partner to be honest with you.
By being able to rely on each other, people can work through their issues without letting fear or anger cause damage.
Become aware of what triggers your emotions and avoid those things if possible. Then once you have a level head, go out there and ask for what you want.
Being submissive means embracing your sexuality
There are many ways to be submissive. The way you act, speak, stand, sit, move, touch, and feel depends on your own personal preferences.
However, there are some traditions or labels that identify specific roles within a relationship. Submission is one of these, though it has different meanings depending on your culture and which version of ‘submission’ you refer to.
In any case, submission is an expression of humility, respect, and trust. It can even extend to someone who claims to have no power over you.
Being submissive means enjoying your life
There are many things in this world that try our patience. Sometimes it can be quite difficult managing those around us, particularly if they are family members or partners.
But there’s a way to live your life without being forced to do so—it’s called being “submissive.” You don’t have to agree to take part in someone else’s plan of action because you feel obligated to.
You don’t need to put up with anyone else forcing you todo things by saying no. Ifyou want to go out for dinner, buy something for yourself, or stay home and read.
Learning how to be more submissive is helpful when you make a commitment to yourself about maintaining health habits, preparing meals, doing housework, and going to bed at a reasonable time.
How does being less aggressive and more submissive work for you?
Being submissive means being a good spouse
In any relationship, it’s important to be mindful of your partner’s feelings and take their thoughts into consideration before taking actions of your own. That goes for when you make decisions as well as what you do with respect to your partner.
It also helps if you tell your partner how you feel about them then try to listen to what they have to say after that. Doing these things shows others that you are willing to communicate and trust other people.
Also, being submissive doesn’t mean giving up yourself or standing by while someone else is hurt. You can be submissive and still respond to situations because you care enough about your partner to stay aware of their pain and want to help them.
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